My Daughter

Postby Surface » 2006-03-10 15:02

My daughter is going to have minor surgery on Monday, she has a birthmark on her back that has been doing some changing over the last year and the Doctor wants to take it off and biopsy it, just to be safe. It is not a major surgery but they do have to put her under anesthesia.

I feel close to my friends on this wonderful web site and hope its not out of line in asking a favor of you. I just wanted to ask for a simple prayer for my daughter (Rachel), and the Doctor and Nurses on Monday. Im not pushing religion upon anyone, it is a personal, very personal decision.

But if you are so inclined to say a prayer, we very much appreciate it.
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Postby saracen » 2006-03-10 15:47

No problem, take care. Will be thinking of you and Rachel on monday. :hug:
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Postby KittyKat » 2006-03-10 16:29

hope everything goes well! :hug:
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Postby Surface » 2006-03-10 16:46

Thanks for your support, Im sure all will go fine.
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Postby Indigo Blue Fish » 2006-03-10 17:11

Best of Luck!
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Postby Kev » 2006-03-10 18:59

I am sure everything will go fine, best of luck to the doctors and nurses and especially your family and your daughter
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Postby Surface » 2006-03-10 19:41

Thanks for all the good thoughts, I will update you on how it goes on Tue, as Ill be a little busy on Monday. Thanks again. :hug:
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Postby hamburger » 2006-03-11 15:53

We'll be thinking of you. Carl
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Postby Mike@AmazonAquatics » 2006-03-11 19:16

We'll be thinking of you and please don't worry, I'm sure it will be fine :)

I had anaesthetic and surgery to remove some big moles from my back when I was 16 and again from my neck a couple of years ago. In both cases the moles were growing and getting darker so the specialists were concerned about them, in both cases they turned out to be benign. My Mother has also had some moles/birthmarks removed for the same reason (moles run in the family). So I understand exactly what you are going through. Please tell your daughter it happens to lots of us and not to worry, these days they don't even leave a permanent scar when they remove the birthmark. :)
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Postby Surface » 2006-03-12 12:53

Thank you all again for all the warm wishes. :hug:

Mike, yes the Dermatoligist had sent her to a Plastic Surgon so the scar should be minimal. He did say due to the size of it and her age that it may stretch over the years but it will be less noticeable than a big brown/black spot on her back. He also said even tho she has markers to be more prone to skin cancer (blond hair,blue eyes, fair skin) that due to her age again it is more than likely benign. :60:

She is up beat about the whole thing and is in charge of what we have for dinner tonight. I will be cooking but she gets to plan the menu.
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Postby Mike@AmazonAquatics » 2006-03-12 14:39

Good luck Surface and once again I think your daughter is very unlikely to have any kind of serious problem... odds are it is benign, and even if it isn't it's better to get it sorted out now while it's small.

My mother was blonde (she's grey now) with blue eyes, freckles, fair skin etc.. and she has lots of moles, and despite tests and ops they have never proven anything other than benign. My uncle (mother's sibling) also has big moles, but has chosen not to have any removed, it usually runs in families so I would take a good look at yourself and your husband the odds are at least one of you has some quite big moles?

I'm darker than my Mum, but my skin is still quite fair and as a young child in the 70's I played virtually naked outdoors a lot in the Australian sun exactly at that time in life when everyone is now saying children have to be covered up... not my parent's fault of course, skin cancer wasn't connected with sunshine at the time and no one knew about the hole in the ozone layer. Even so English dermatologists have always had me on an 'extremely high risk' list since childhood, which explains my two ops, I also get called up for check ups at the local dermatological ward in Bath every couple of years. Life is too short to worry about this sort of thing though, and I don't think I will have another mole removed unless it looks really bad as the last two have proven benign and I would like to have some skin left :lol2: <joke!>

After my first Op, when I was 16, I popped virtually all my stiches and had to have them resewn, my fault entirely as I went out and played rugby virtually the day after the op... Okay I was stupid, but I was only 16! I still have slight scars from those, but the Op on my neck a couple of years ago has healed up completely without any real scar at all, despite the surgeon's view that it was very likely to scar as it was on my neck and quite a big piece of skin was removed. If it would reassure you I can probably send you some photos of my scars, but trust me they aren't huge and disfiguring! :)

I really hope your daughter is fine, I'm sure she will be. Please don't worry, you need to try and stay confident and calm for her sake, I remember my parents worrying about my op when I was 16 and trying desperately not to show it... and that panicked me a bit! But, in the end it was nothing to worry about at all, really quick, and the surgeon and nurses were all very friendly and supportive. Second time around a couple of years ago I was very blase about it all, and didn't even have a day off work!

If you have faith then prayer might be a good way to get any concerns off your chest. Once you start to talk about it you will probably find lots and lots of other people who have gone through/are going through the same thing, it really isn't as rare, or as frightening, as it probably seems :)

My best regards for your daughter, I will be thinking about you both tomorrow!!!
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Postby Indigo Blue Fish » 2006-03-12 16:06

Lol - if a plastic surgeon is suturing - then I wouldn't worry.
For some reason a plastic surgeon stitched my foot up when I had it operated on - the scar is nearly invisible, even though it's over 3" long...
I think he was the only person they had spare to do it at the time lol!

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Postby Surface » 2006-03-12 16:13

Thanks again Mike and IBF for the kind and caring words.

Mike you were saying about it running in families and the funny thing is my brother had one as a child on his back in the same place and same size as Rachels. The only ones I ever had I got when I was pregnant with her. Which is kind of funny. I had them removed and they were all fine. I know she will be ok thru this.

The biggest challenge will be to slow her down after words, the child never walks thru the house she cartwheels thru the house. Also they said no golf for 2 weeks and she was bummed about that, but I told her I would watch it with her on tv and we can do some reading up on keeping score and stuff. She is golfing in her first tournament in May.
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Postby Mike@AmazonAquatics » 2006-03-12 17:52

Dermatologists have got a thing about removing moles these days it seems, I guess it's all about being on the safe side 'just in case', but in the past I don't think they worried half as much. My uncle says he was never told, and never felt, he had a 'problem' just because of a few big moles and now he's turned 60 he can't be bothered to have them removed anyway! Hopefully he's right and it is all a big fuss about nothing really...

Well, considering my own stitches first time around, I would recommend to your daughter she gives golf a break for a few weeks, tournament or not! As I said I managed to pop all mine and as a result I was left with some scars, without that I probably wouldn't have any visible ones at all. But, kids being kids, I expect it will be too much to wait around for them to heal... and they itch, so you'd better stock up on the calamine lotion ;)

My wife has quite a few moles as well, so am expecting our six month old son to be quite moley in time... as far as I'm concerned they should really be called 'beauty marks' though :lol2:
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Postby Mike@AmazonAquatics » 2006-03-14 12:11

Hope it's all over now and everything turned out Okay?! :)
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